Couples Therapy in five counseling questions
There’s a lot of people out in the Internet looking for couples therapy, or marriage counseling. Many of them turn up at our Imago website at www.gettingtheloveyouwant.com, so I wanted to make sure they found something quick and useful, and that immediately gave insights into how Imago can provide relationship help.
This was the birth of our latest interactive feature – “Infrequently asked questions”. I started out with thinking about all the questions people might be thinking of asking, but maybe never quite do ask. Like “Why do couples fight?”
I was thinking that if I was still looking for good couples counseling, I would be baffled by all the options out there. How could I find an approach to marriage counseling that I could believe and trust in? And how much time would I want to spare looking at all these sites, before I decided what felt right to me.
“Infrequently asked questions” is designed to go right to the heart of Imago, and to communicate it quickly and from a personal point of view. For example the first question “Why do couples fight?” is an opportunity to talk about how many of us often argue about things on the surface, like putting a dent in the new car. But often it feels like our partners are being quite unreasonable. Imago dialogue takes the discussion to a deeper place, where I can learn about my partner’s childhood experiences, and how that leads her to behave in ways I find quite unexpected.
That was quite a mouthful to write – but if you visit www.gettingtheloveyouwant.com you may find a much quicker spoken answer with a few fun illustrations.
Other questions are intended to be thought provoking. “Why doesn’t couples therapy work” is an unusual question to find on the website for a marriage counseling organization! It gives us an opportunity to attract people in to hear about why Imago is a little different, focusing not so much on problems, but on the relationship itself.
“Is there hope for us?” was added to the list after a discussion with some Imago therapists, who said that this was so often the first question they hear couples ask. And Yes! There is hope, with Imago couples counseling. We show how at the point of lost hope, people find themselves in a dark valley called the “power struggle”, but that Imago provides both the map and the skills needed to climb out and into the hopeful world of “true love”.
Don’t forget to visit our last post about Divorce fairs in Italy.