In the earlier post, I wrote about how furious I get when my wife criticises my driving. She feels I’m a bit over-cautious when I change lanes. When she offers this bit of constructive criticism, it gets me livid. How could she criticize my incredibly safe and attentive driving? I stay obsessed about it for hours. I find myself turning around thoughts, finding ways to explain to her once and for all, just how safe and amazing I am as a driver.

Sounds like my problem, right? So how could couples counseling help with something which seems to be mostly about my head going on spin cycle? Shouldn’t I just get my head shrunk so it stays more firmly rooted to reality?

You wouldn’t fight with your marriage counselor would you? It turns out that actually most of us do just that.  It’s a subtle and unconscious fight.  Couples therapists call it resistance.  It’s actually a natural and unavoidable part of the marriage counseling process.  I go and see a stranger, and the plan is to tell [...]

Here are some stunning facts from a study from the Jubilee Center, a UK-based Christian organization, who says that married parents are nearly 10 times more likely to stay together than un-married parents.

Imago Dialogue for couples is something quite specific and quite structured. At least, its best for it to be structured when you are just learning it, and whenever the subject is hard. Oh! We’re talking about the field of intimate relationships- the subject has a tendency to be quite tricky, don’t you find?!

The Michelangelo phenomenon views each of us like a block of marble, and inside is our ideal self, just waiting to be fully revealed. If you recall Michelangelo said that the sculpture already existed inside the marble, and his job was just to make it visible. Like Michelangelo, our partners can help shape us so that it is this ideal self that emerges in all its fullness and aliveness. That’s interesting to me because its another way of looking at the goals of Imago marriage counseling

Science supports relationship help as a way to strengthen marriages

This blog is about exploring the missing bit, the something else, the elements that can hold us together, and make this life on earth infinitely more wonderful in the process. What did it cost JFK to spend time with Marilyn Monroe?