How delightful to discover that Genevieve and Mike of MamaNatural have made a series of 8 videos about Imago. Here’s the one I like most, where they demonstrate both how to fight, and how to dialogue. Beautifully done. The complete series of 8 cover the range of “Getting The Love You Want” and are a [...]
The break-up between Arnold Schwarzenegger and Maria Shriver reached such epic proportions of tragedy this week, that I prefer to start this post with a joke. I was visiting Washington, DC , and got horribly lost. I asked a passer-by directions to the White House. He looked me up and down and finally said “Well, [...]
Love and politics have collided in my homeland. I was back home in England last week, when the British opposition party elected a new leader, Ed Milibrand. Right now Britain has a coalition party in power, which is always a bit shaky. I heard a lot about Mr Milibrand on the radio as I drove [...]
Then I read some advice from Steven Stosny in Psychology Today. He talks about how couples get locked into a conflict about emotional needs. “As long as they perceive themselves to have emotional needs that their partners must gratify, their desire to love is reduced to Getting my needs met,” Steven reminded me of how often we are living on the surface of our relationships, caught in a game we don’t understand, fighting to get what we each need
If you want relationship help, where do you start? There’s often quite an emotional barrier to picking up a phone and saying to a stranger “My relationship could do with some help.” It’s hard enough to even say it to yourself.
Japanese innovation leads the world yet again, this time in the field of relationships. Ending them, that is.
Reuter’s reports on ceremonies to end a marriage, held with family and friends around, and even a ceremonial gavel to smash the ring. You aren’t allowed to do that while it’s still on your ex-partner’s finger though.
Alanis Morissette is one of Imago’s fans! So we’re very excited to hear that she married recently in a small private ceremony. So private – that it took the media two weeks to even find out about it. But her relationship success adds a new meaning to the beautiful video she recorded showing her appreciation of [...]
The delight of being a blogger is searching for what to write about. It sends me scouring the internet for articles of interest about couples therapy. And in the process I came across a short blog post on psychology today which really got me thinking. In the post, Joni Johnston PysD talks about three things to consider before giving relationship advice. Since she is the author of the “Complete Idiot’s Guide to Psychology” I like her take on things.
In the earlier post, I wrote about how furious I get when my wife criticises my driving. She feels I’m a bit over-cautious when I change lanes. When she offers this bit of constructive criticism, it gets me livid. How could she criticize my incredibly safe and attentive driving? I stay obsessed about it for hours. I find myself turning around thoughts, finding ways to explain to her once and for all, just how safe and amazing I am as a driver.
Sounds like my problem, right? So how could couples counseling help with something which seems to be mostly about my head going on spin cycle? Shouldn’t I just get my head shrunk so it stays more firmly rooted to reality?
Ah! Valentine’s Day – once dedicated to the patron saint of love, but it seems that the patron saint of greed might be elbowing his way in. Ever had that experience? Well, here’s another approach from Imago.
