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Prevention Is The Most Effective Cure

by David Roche 

 

In the US these days, the health care debate rages on. What about the cost of health care? What about the cost of health insurance? What about the uninsured? What about waste in the health care system? What about prevention versus cure?

 

I've never truly understood the focus on cure versus prevention in western medicine. It almost seems that physicians today won't do anything for you until they recognize through diagnosis that you have a serious problem. Then they take action to "cure" the problem. Why isn't there more of a focus on preventing the problem (or disease) in the first place? I know insurance companies are a big part of the issue. What if we knew with certainty (genetics, prior history) that the problem would occur, why wouldn't we take action and prevent it?

 

What if we knew with certainty that every couple in a committed relationship would hit a wall (the power struggle) and 95% of them would never recover? Why do most couples ignore preventing the problem and take action only to cure the problem? Statistics show that couples in trouble wait an average of seven years before finally getting help. What a waste! Why don't couples take action up-front rather than wait to "fix" the problem later?

 

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Don't Be Afraid to Get Into the Game

by Mary Kay Cocharo

My son plays baseball.  As a result, I find myself spending countless weekend hours in the bleachers.  At one particular game, as the other team slipped ahead by several runs, I noticed the coaches and parents yelling things like, "Get into the game!", "Play like you mean it!", and "You can do it...commit!" I got to thinking about baseball as a metaphor for other things in life- like finding the right relationship.
 
These young boys looked like they wanted to win.  They'd shown up. They'd dressed in uniform. They'd taken the field. But were they playing like they knew they would win?

 

Were they really 100% "in the game"?  Or were they already assuming that they would lose because the other team was ahead?
 
Similarly, when we're single, we sometimes look like we want to find our soul mate.  We say that we do.  We sign up with a dating service and tell our friends that we're available.


Like the baseball players, we even show up "well-suited".  But are we really clear about our intention? Do we know that we will succeed at finding a great relationship? Are we really 100% in the game?  Or do we look good, but harbor deep fear and doubts?  Are we unwittingly blocking the flow of love's energy by playing it safe and failing to really risk?


We say that we want connection, but flinch when it comes too close.  We hold a little bit back in case it fails...in case it hurts.

 
Neil Meili's Poem - The Inner Critic